Tina remembers her partner, Michael, and shares why she supports Pilgrims Hospices by dedicating a leaf to him on the Memory Tree, to say thank you for the care he received.

Michael was a gentleman from the moment I met him: kind, caring, generous and considerate. His humour was of a silly nature and his generosity knew no bounds. He used to walk me home from work, carrying my shopping, and always made sure to lock the door behind me when I got in. Eventually, he asked me to dinner and from then, we would go onto spend 15 wonderful years together.

He loved his family very much, and always encouraged them, and anyone he met, to strive for the stars and follow their dreams. He loved comforts close to him like a beer and a bet on a Sunday with his friends, fishing and following his beloved Chelsea Football Club. But also loved adventures far and wide, such as our annual travels to India. Each year, we went for longer than the last.

We were introduced to Pilgrims when Michael was diagnosed and they did everything to make him comfortable, making sure to take the time to explain everything in plain English so it was easy for him to understand.

Every single person who works and volunteers there went above and beyond – truly, they are amazing, special people.

We spent lots of time in the gardens with Michael’s family, and his nurses were always there to get him ready. There was one occasion where he wanted to go out and enjoy the rain, but realising just how cold it was, he decided against it. Instead, they situated him so he was able to watch the world from his room. It was such a simple act, but it meant so much, a true moment of care. Initially, I wanted Michael to spend his final days at home, but he remarked on how comfortable he felt at the Ashford hospice, so at peace. In hindsight, I’m so glad that is where he was.

When Michael was being cared for in the hospice, I used to sit in the cafe area, and always took note of the Memory Tree. Our home was always filled with trees, a reflection of his love for the outdoors. To me, they represent life, nature, the changing of the seasons and regrowth. To remember Michael on the Memory Tree is so special. It shows love for many from many. It’s a comfort to me that his leaf is surrounded by other heartfelt dedications, fitting for a man who loved people.

If you’re inspired by Tina’s story and would like to support Pilgrims Hospices, find out how you can dedicate a leaf or dove on our Memory Trees.

Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to more than 3,000 people in east Kent each year who are living with a terminal illness. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet. We also run a 24-hour advice line.