“I always imagined hospices were marvellous places, but until I experienced it myself, I didn’t know just how exceptional everything and everyone would be.”
My Dad was a true Londoner – bold, big-hearted and full of life. His voice could fill a room, and so could his warmth. He was so generous with his time and embodied the spirit of community in every way, proudly inheriting the family picture-frame making business ‘Mann & Sons.’ In his later years, he moved to Kent and found real comfort in the slower pace of life and bracing sea air.
After Dad had his stroke, it was heart-breaking to see someone who had always been so strong and independent suddenly become so vulnerable. As his final days were drawing closer, he told me that he wanted to die at home, but this wasn’t possible since he needed too much attention.
In the end, however, I feel very grateful that he ended up in the care of the Thanet hospice. It was the best thing that could’ve happened and from the moment we came through the door, I knew we were in fantastic hands.
The small things will always stay with me: the hand-knitted quilts on each bed, to the radio that appeared in his room after I mentioned his love of listening to it. These thoughtful touches, to me, show the true meaning of care – acts of decency, kindness and generosity given for nothing in return.
Sarah and her dad
There are many touching moments I recall in those difficult days, but the one that sticks in my mind most is sharing Dad’s final sunset with him. He’d asked for this specifically and even though the nurses were busy, at shift’s end, they made the time to attach rollers to his bed and wheel him outside. I sat with him, holding his hand, and we watched the sky turn red. I could see what this meant to him.
Twelve hours later, he lapsed into unconsciousness – I had slept in a chair by his bed until that moment and the nurses brought me a blanket for the night. I carried on sleeping there until the moment he died, and afterwards helped the nurses and volunteers bathe him and dress him in clean pyjamas. Their compassion and respect was astonishing, and after they’d taken him away, they handed me an envelope addressed ‘Sarah’ containing a hand-knitted heart and a poem. I still have them both.
My Dad has been gone close to three years now, but I feel his spirit in everything I do. He passed at 80 and when people say he had a good life – and he really did – it doesn’t lessen the loss. Keeping his memory alive is so important to me, and seeing his name on the Memory Tree really touches me. I wanted to support Pilgrims yearly, and it’s such a wonderful way to do so, on a beautiful installation where his memory is kept alive.
I will never be able to repay Pilgrims Hospices for everything they did – they care for the people sitting around the bed as much as the person lying in it. Leaving a gift to Pilgrims in my Will is my way of saying one final thank you, in memory of my Dad and with deep gratitude for all they did for both of us.
If you’re inspired by Sarah’s story and would like to support Pilgrims Hospices, there are many ways you can:
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
4th June 2025
Barbara’s volunteering journey with Pilgrims Hospices
Meet Barbara, who began volunteering with Pilgrims Hospices four years ago after searching for something new to fill her time with.
Barbara is a Collection Pot Coordinator, and makes sure that all our collection pots in Whitstable are replaced every few months, as well as finding new venues to host one, including pubs, cafes, hairdressers and newsagents.
Maxine and Barbara
She also enjoys supporting our fundraising events, and you will often see her manning our tombola stalls in the community or marshalling at our challenge events.
Volunteering is a way for Barbara to give back to a cause close to her heart. After experiencing first-hand the care her husband, Edd, received, she knew that when the time was right, she wanted to give a little something back.
“I was so overwhelmed by the care, compassion and respect Edd received, as well as myself and my family during what was a very difficult time.”
Barbara’s family also volunteer their time when they can, including her grandson, Freddie, who walked the Whitstable Carnival to raise awareness of Pilgrims, and her daughter, Maxine, who spent some time raising funds on one of our summer tombolas.
Barbara said: “I would recommend volunteering as it has given me a purpose and I feel privileged to be a volunteer, knowing I am making a difference. The sense of fulfilment is indescribable.”
Canterbury Community Fundraiser, Rachael Edmed says:
“We are always looking for enthusiastic, passionate people like Barbara who are able to donate some of their spare time to help us continue raising vital funds and making a difference. Whether you’re interested in supporting our fundraising events or manning a bucket collection, we welcome informal chats to see what volunteering for Pilgrims could offer you.”
Volunteers’ Week celebrates the amazing contributions volunteers make to communities across the UK. The celebration starts on the first Monday in June every year. It’s a chance to recognise, celebrate and thank the UK’s incredible volunteers for all they contribute to our local communities, the voluntary sector, and society as a whole.
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
Celebrate Pride in style with Store50 – where fabulous meets fundraising!
Canterbury is bursting with colour this Pride, taking place on Saturday 7 June 2025 – and we’re right there with you!
Join the celebrations at Store50, the bold, brilliant, beautifully bonkers charity shop run by Pilgrims Hospices.
We’re flying our rainbow flag with pride and sharing the love with limited-edition earrings and super fun phone charms – handmade, eye-catching, and perfect for adding that extra sparkle to your look.
Whether you’re dressing for the parade, cheering from the sidelines, or simply living your best colourful life – pop in and find your Pride accessory of dreams. First-timers are genuinely surprised by the amazing stock on our shelves – and nearly everyone becomes a regular after just one visit!
At Pilgrims Hospices, we are proud to stand together during Pride and every day of the year. We are committed to being open, diverse and equal, respecting and celebrating the individuality of our patients, families, staff and volunteers. Everyone is welcome, and we are here for anyone who needs our support. Inclusivity is at the heart of our care – and we’re working to make sure equality, diversity and inclusion are woven into everything we do.
Store50 is more than a shop – it’s a joyful, planet-friendly place to shop sustainably, support your local community and celebrate life. Every purchase helps Pilgrims Hospices provide expert care to local people living with life-limiting illness. That’s style with real substance.
Eco-friendly shopping = less waste, more love.
Reuse, recycle and re-love – great for your wardrobe and the world!
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
