Kelvin and Joy’s story is intertwined with much joy, some real sadness and heartbreak, but one of true love that always continued despite everything that happened between them.
Kelvin and Joy in New Zealand, February 1992
Joy and I were married for 25 years, before separating for a time. We always remained close and Joy always knew that I would be there for her if she ever needed me. I knew her so well having been together for nearly 28 years, and I never stopped loving her.
In the early part of 2008, Joy became quite ill, but despite several appointments with her GP, it wasn’t until she had blood tests in mid-2008 that she was eventually diagnosed with acute myeloid leukaemia. From this point onwards, we once more became husband and wife in all but name, and I was with her every step of the way on her very brave fight against this dreadful disease until sadly she passed away at the Pilgrims Hospice in Ashford in the early hours of Saturday 19 December 2009.
I will always be so grateful to the Pilgrims Hospice for the wonderful care that they gave to Joy in her final few days and for all the support they gave to Joy’s family and friends at this time. It also remains very special to me to this very day that on the morning Joy passed away, the hospice had arranged for me to stay overnight with her and that I could be with her during her final few hours before she sadly passed away. The compassion that the hospice staff showed to me will remain with me for the rest of my life.
Although it is now over 16 years since Joy passed away, I still miss her every day and treasure the love that we shared together over so many years.
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Kelvin and Joy through the years
The hospice was there for us when we needed them most, and it is for this reason I continue to support them in a number of ways today via the Memory Tree, Sunflower Memories and Trees of Love. For me, leaving a gift in my Will to Pilgrims Hospices is a further way to say thank you to them in Joy’s memory so that others may receive the same wonderful care and support that she did.
Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to thousands of people in east Kent each year who are living with life-limiting conditions. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Canterbury, Thanet and Ashford. We also run a 24-hour advice line.
17th February 2026
Zoo comes to hospice for Lorenzo’s 8th birthday
Pilgrims Hospices helped make one little boy’s birthday wish come true when a zoo experience was brought to his mum’s bedside.
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Rosanna, who is receiving care at Pilgrims Hospice Canterbury, had hoped to take her son, Lorenzo, to the zoo for his 8th birthday on Sunday 15 February 2026.
Sadly, due to her poor health, a family day out wasn’t possible. Instead, the hospice team decided to bring the zoo to them.
Lorenzo, his brother Luca (10), and cousin Mischa (2) gathered at the hospice alongside their dad, Rob, grandparents Claire and Gero, aunties and uncles, and close family members from Herne Bay and Whitstable.
The Pilgrims catering team prepared a lovely traditional birthday tea, complete with freshly made sandwiches and colourful jelly and cake, creating a warm and joyful party atmosphere.
Lorenzo excitedly opened presents, including a cuddly dinosaur, Lego, and plenty of sweets, some of his favourite things.
To ensure Rosanna could be at the heart of the celebration, nurses carefully brought her bed into the hospice Therapy Centre, creating space for everyone to be together.
After lunch, a special surprise arrived courtesy of Creepy Claws Animal Encounters in Teynham, who kindly volunteered their time to bring along a selection of fascinating creatures.
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From reptiles to other “creepy crawlies,” the experience delighted the children, and Rosanna bravely joined in, holding the animals and sharing laughter with her family. Being able to take part together created precious memories at a time that matters most.
Rosanna’s husband Rob said:
“We can’t thank everyone enough for the special kindness we have been given here at Pilgrims. You have all been part of making Rosanna’s time here warm, comfortable, and peaceful, not just for her, but for all of us.”
Claire, Rosanna’s mum, added: “Thank you all so much; we now have a really precious memory for the family to share.”
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Hospice Services Manager, Sam Churchyard, reflected:
“It’s wonderful to help this lovely family share such a special moment. The team was determined to make the birthday truly memorable, and everyone pulled together to make it happen. We’re also incredibly grateful to Michael at Creepy Claws Animal Encounters for bringing along these fascinating creatures for the family to enjoy.”
Shirley Clark, from the Marketing and Communications team at Pilgrims, photographed the day:
“It was a privilege to capture these moments for the family. Those natural smiles, the laughter, and the little in-between moments, will become treasured memories for years to come.”
At Pilgrims Hospices, care extends beyond clinical support; it’s about helping families live well together, right to the end, and creating moments of joy when they’re needed most.
Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to thousands of people in east Kent each year who are living with life-limiting conditions. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Canterbury, Thanet and Ashford. We also run a 24-hour advice line.
11th February 2026
Andrew’s story: Love, loss and giving back to Pilgrims
Andrew Gillingham lives in Walmer, and was married to his wife Karen for 13 years.
Pilgrims had been there from the very beginning of their relationship, when his mother-in-law was cared for in the Thanet hospice, dying from oesophageal cancer in 2005.
In 2021, Karen received support from Pilgrims in her home, allowing her final two weeks to be in the place she loved, surrounded by the people she loved.
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Their story is one of countless incredible memories, and of the breadth of care Pilgrims provides: from the home to the hospice, and from the patient to their loved ones.
“Karen was amazing.” Andrew says. “She was outgoing, bubbly and enjoyed walking our dogs in the countryside.”
Her true passion, however, was seeking out adventures a little further from home, loving nothing more than travelling abroad.
“I hadn’t travelled much, not before I met Karen. But just like her, I fell in love with it. For eight years, we travelled twice a year to a whole range of places – it was where all of our money went! But I could never regret it, you can’t put a price on memories.”
“Morocco was her favourite place, we travelled there in 2019 and loved it so much we’d booked to go again the following year. But with Covid restrictions, and Karen’s diagnosis, it was a trip we couldn’t make.”
In October 2020, Karen was diagnosed with lymphoma. She completed her treatment by the next February with the upmost bravery, and was given a 90% chance of recovery. But, her prognosis quickly began to change when her cancer developed into a brain tumour. Just two months later, she deteriorated and became paralysed from the neck down. Her condition was now terminal.
“Originally, I wasn’t allowed in the ambulance with Karen due to the restrictions surrounding coronavirus. But, because of the severity of her condition, we were allowed to travel together to University College London (UCL) Hospital. The very last time we were able to hug one another was in that ambulance.”
Karen spent three months in UCL, before being brought home with the assistance of Pilgrims Hospices in the final two weeks before she died. When she was transferred from the hospital to home, Karen asked: “Are were going on holiday now?”, a heart-warming reminder of the travels they took, so close to her heart.
Andrew remembers: “Karen’s doctors didn’t think she would survive the ambulance journey, let alone the two weeks she had at home. But as soon as she arrived, her spirits were lifted – she was singing, and all sorts!
Our bedroom was moved downstairs, our window to the outside world, and her bubbly, warm nature shone through right until the end. And one of her final requests? A cheeky tipple, a brandy!”
Karen died on 28 June 2021, with care from Pilgrims Andrew described as “nothing short of fantastic.” That care was extended to Karen’s loved ones too, through Pilgrims Stepping Stones Bereavement Support Services. Andrew attended counselling at the Thanet hospice, and joined the Bereavement Walking Groups, where he found comfort in connecting with people who had also lost a loved one.
Now, Andrew supports Pilgrims Hospices in Karen’s memory at the charity’s in memory appeals: Sunflower Memories and Trees of Love.
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“It’s my way of giving back so others can receive the same amazing care that we did. Most recently, I attended the Trees of Love service at the Thanet hospice with my step-daughter and granddaughter, so we could honour Karen during the festive season.”
Alongside Andrew’s personal support, his work has also got involved, too! In 2024, AEM Ltd (Ramsgate), one of Europe’s leading overhaul and repair facilities in the aerospace industry, selected Pilgrims Hospices as their Charity of the Year. Their staff fundraised through bake sales, colour runs, competitions and quizzes. Some of the team even took to the skies for an adrenaline-fuelled tandem skydive!
“I couldn’t quite bring myself to jump out of a plane, better them than me! But I was so proud that they chose to support Pilgrims partly in Karen’s memory. Altogether we raised an amazing £10,485.66.”
Before she died, Karen had one request of Andrew. She wanted him to continue going on holiday and to let her memory live on through their love of travel. It was a promise he kept. Andrew and his sister, Kim, travelled to Italy and Greece in 2022.
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“It was something I talked through with Sarah, one of Pilgrims counsellors. I wanted to honour Karen’s wishes in continuing to explore the world, but I knew it would be hard without her. Sarah told me that a love of travel was a gift that Karen had given to me. That always stuck with me.”
The following year, they returned to Morocco, staying in the same hotel he and Karen had.
“I needed to run Morocco past my sister first as the hotel was primarily meant for couples! But the staff were so great and remembered me from before. It was painful to go back without Karen, but I’m so glad I did. It was wonderful to share that with my sister, too, as like me, she hadn’t travelled much either.”
Five years on, Andrew says “I can’t say how much I miss Karen, I just can’t believe. It really does feel like no time has passed.”
“I want to share our story because I’m just so proud of my Karen. We spent many incredible years together full of unforgettable memories, but it was never quite long enough.”
Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to thousands of people in east Kent each year who are living with life-limiting conditions. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Canterbury, Thanet and Ashford. We also run a 24-hour advice line.
10th February 2026
Hannah takes on London Marathon for Pilgrims Hospices in memory of brother
Hannah Brazier from Herne Bay will run the London Marathon on 26 April 2026 in memory of her brother, Kyran, who was cared for by Pilgrims Hospices.
With more than £2,000 raised in sponsorship, Hannah is helping to ensure that other families can continue to benefit from local hospice care.
Hannah with her brother, Kyran
After receiving a Stage 4 bowel cancer diagnosis, Kyran spent his final week in Pilgrims’ care; he died at the Canterbury hospice in September 2024, aged 36.
Hannah said: “Our experience as a family was overwhelmingly positive. During Kyran’s stay at the hospice, staff and volunteers gave him exceptional care filled with comfort, dignity and compassion. Nothing was ever too much trouble, and every need was met with kindness, patience and warmth.
“Kyran took great joy in the delicious meals he was served, the friendly jokes he shared with everyone, and the massages that helped ease his pain.
“Knowing he was so well cared for brought our family a great sense of peace.”
Inspired to give back and to say thank you, Hannah signed up to run London Marathon 2026 for Pilgrims. With the support of family and friends, she has already raised over £2,000, and with a few months still to go until the big day, she hopes to raise even more:
“Running the London Marathon in Kyran’s memory is an honour, and a chance to give something back to the organisation that gave so much to us when we needed it most. Pilgrims offered compassion, dignity, and unwavering support during the most difficult time of our lives. They didn’t just care for my brother, they cared for our entire family. We were welcomed at any hour, day or night. Staff provided toys for Kyran’s children to play with during visits, and they made space for family meals in the shared dining area. To his children, the hospice became affectionately known as the “house-pital” because it felt like a second home.
“Through fundraising, I’d like to help ensure that everyone has access to dignified end-of-life care in a comfortable setting with excellent support. While many of us shy away from talking about dying, my experience showed me how vital it is that people are able to die with dignity, compassion, and comfort. I want to help make this level of care available to all families who may need it.”
Pilgrims Hospices charity places for London Marathon 2026 are full, but if you’ve been inspired by Hannah and would like to fundraise for Pilgrims, visit our events page or contact our Fundraising team to find out more:
Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to thousands of people in east Kent each year who are living with life-limiting conditions. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Canterbury, Thanet and Ashford. We also run a 24-hour advice line.
25th November 2025
Louise raises thousands for Pilgrims Hospices in London Marathon triumphs
Louise Ellis, a teaching assistant from Rotherfield near Tunbridge Wells, has completed the London Marathon twice, first in 2011 and again in 2025, both times for Pilgrims Hospices; alongside other fundraising, since 2008, Louise has raised £5,108.85 in total for hospice care in east Kent.
Louise ran in memory of her parents, Pat and Christopher Rundle, who both received Pilgrims’ care at the Ashford hospice, to give back and help ensure that other families can benefit from vital hospice services.
Pat had pancreatic cancer and was cared for by Pilgrims in 2008.
Louise’s parents, Christopher and Pat
Sadly, 10 years later in 2018, Christopher was diagnosed with bowel and liver cancer; Pilgrims supported him to remain at home for as long as possible during his illness, and he died at the Ashford hospice in 2020.
Louise said: “When Mum was diagnosed, a devastating time was made a little easier knowing she would receive Pilgrims’ care. I imagined the hospice to be a dull, bleak and sad environment, but this was far from what we experienced.
“It was warm, inviting, supportive and caring; every staff member communicated with us clearly about Mum’s care.
“Difficult conversations were had, but they were delivered with compassion and sincerity, and gave Mum and us clarity in the inevitable, sad prognosis.
“After Mum passed away in April 2008, the care our family received meant the world. Mum’s four grandchildren, who were exceptionally close to her, were invited to a family day, where they each made memory boxes and jars. My son, Robbie, still has his jar, and every different coloured layer represents a special memory of Mum; her love for the garden, being outside in the sunshine, and our family.
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“My dad also attended several Pilgrims support groups, which aided the painful loss of his wife of 38 years.”
When Christopher received his cancer diagnosis in 2018, and after undergoing major surgery, Pilgrims helped him get well enough to care for himself at home. He attended the hospice whenever he needed extra care or medical intervention, and died there peacefully in April 2020, just as the UK went into lockdown.
Louise continued:
“Again, our family were kept fully informed. My twin sister, Cate, was encouraged and allowed to stay with Dad until the end. Pilgrims were always available on the phone to update us on his condition, which is something we’ll be forever grateful for.
“Dad was a staunch advocate of Pilgrims; he knew personally how invaluable their care is – to not just patients, but to families as well. Pilgrims has also helped bring our family together with the annual Sunflower Memories and Trees of Love remembrance events. We have a lovely photo of us with Dad, sitting amongst the sunflowers, which brings back memories of a wonderful place.
Louise and her family at Sunflower Memories
“The care given by Pilgrims to Mum and Dad truly made a real difference to me, so I knew I wanted to give back at some point. I was lucky enough to get a ballot place for the London Marathon in 2011; at the time, my first thought was to raise funds for Pilgrims, to thank them for all they did for Mum.
“Between 2008 when I started fundraising for Pilgrims, and 2011 when I completed my first London Marathon, I raised £2,815.50!
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“In 2024, I got my running club’s place for the London Marathon, and again decided to raise money for Pilgrims – especially as my sister, Cate, now works as a Trainee Advanced Clinical Practitioner for this amazing charity. She is so passionate about making a difference to people affected by life-limiting illnesses. She is dedicated, compassionate and extremely knowledgeable, and I can only begin to imagine the incredible difference she herself is now making to families like ours. I’m unbelievably proud of her, and sing her praises from the rooftops at every opportunity!”
Louise raised a further £2,208.60 by running London Marathon 2025. She fundraised mainly via social media, supported by family, friends, colleagues, her running club, and parents at the school where she works.
She added:
“I hope the money raised will make a small difference to people and families who need Pilgrims’ care – whether that’s enabling children to attend a family day, or providing essential nursing care to patients. Our family will be forever grateful for the care and support we’ve received from Pilgrims over the years, so it feels fitting to repay them by giving back in this way – especially as Cate is now a significant and much-valued member of the Pilgrims care team.”
And what advice would Louise give to others wanting to fundraise for Pilgrims?
“Be unashamedly passionate and relentless on social media! Start posting months ahead of the race; each post usually results in several donations. Share significant mileage, races, running in awful weather conditions etc. and how raising money for such an important charity spurs you on to keep going, especially if you’re doing it in a loved one’s memory.”
Louise’s top London Marathon tips
Preparation
Join a running club if you have one near you; the camaraderie, support and encouragement can be invaluable.
Take advice about nutrition, gels, electrolytes etc. as they can make a real difference to your training and race experience.
Sign up for a few half marathons, which will help you gauge your pace and give you a feel for racing.
On the day
Above anything, enjoy the experience and the day.
Make sure you have family members and friends dotted along the course, especially for the last 5-6 miles; the thought of seeing them will literally keep your legs going!
Take full advantage of the enthusiasm and encouragement from the crowd.
Believe and have faith in your training, and all the miles you have put in ahead of the big day.
Do not change anything on race day; stick to everything you have done on your long runs, including nutrition/fuelling, clothing etc.
STAY HYDRATED!
Have your name printed/written clearly on the front of your running vest so people can shout it out; it will feel like all your best friends are cheering you on every step of the way.
Stick to your planned pace in order to save some energy for the last few miles. It’s easy to get scooped up with the crowds, especially as it is a flat race, so keep checking your watch and your pace.
Once you’ve finished, make sure you celebrate this incredible achievement with family and friends and raise a glass to loved ones and the hospice; savour the glory of running 26.2 miles/42.165km for such an amazing cause.
Pilgrims Hospices charity places for London Marathon 2026 are full, but if you have a ballot place, we’d love you to join Team Pilgrims and fundraise for us.
Please contact our Fundraising team to find out more:
If you’re inspired by Louise’s fundraising journey, visit pilgrimshospices.org/events to find out how you can support Pilgrims Hospices by taking on an event or challenge for local hospice care.
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
11th November 2025
Avneet’s journey as a junior doctor at Pilgrims Hospices: “Pilgrims enables dignity in death”
At Pilgrims Hospices, specialist palliative care doctors and consultants play a vital role in supporting patients and their families.
They focus on managing and improving the physical symptoms that accompany a variety of life-limiting illnesses, with the broader aim of helping people to live well – in both mind and body – in the time that they have left.
Avneet Kaur Dhandee, a junior doctor from London, completed a placement at the Canterbury hospice in 2025. She shares her experiences, including how her Sikh faith, informs her medical practice.
What inspired you to do your training at Pilgrims Hospices?
I’m interested in becoming a GP, with special interests in palliative care and mental health, so I felt a hospice placement would be essential to inform my future career. I’ve gained immense knowledge from my time at Pilgrims, and look forward to applying this to my practice, which will include hospitals, care homes and patients’ homes.
What has your role involved and what have you learnt through working at Pilgrims? Has anything surprised you?
Working at Pilgrims, I’ve seen how effective primary care management can aid in reducing the pressure on hospice services, which are mostly funded by charitable donations.
Pilgrims deliver skilled and compassionate end-of-life care, free of charge, to thousands of people across east Kent every year. They provide extensive services in the community, with care teams attending patients in their homes, care homes, and nursing homes. Supporting families is also a key focus; Pilgrims offer dedicated groups, from therapies to legacy work and so much more.
I’ve been able to get involved with delivering many of these services, including:
Clerking in new patients
Identifying actively dying patients and managing their care appropriately
Prescribing effective medication dosages and identifying beneficial choices of analgesia, anti-emetics, laxatives, and syringe drivers
Visiting patients at home alongside the medical team
Throughout my placement, I was guided and supported by a consultant and the wider Pilgrims team, who are all amazing!
I initially associated hospice work with sadness, grief and anguish, but I felt so much gratitude during my time at Pilgrims. Whilst some negative emotions are definitely more real than ever within the hospice environment, positive feelings shine through; families share their gratefulness for the care, patients express relief as they become the most pain-free they’ve ever been, and it’s lovely to see the comfort people feel thanks to the kindness shown by staff.
Do you have any favourite memories from your time at Pilgrims?
Something I’m most proud of is taking part in the Pilgrims Way Challenge 2025, which took place whilst I was working at the hospice. I completed the challenge with my medical school friend, Sana. We walked 35km from Dover to the Canterbury hospice, on a very hot day! When we crossed the finish line, we were cheered on by the wonderful ward nurses and patients.
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Afterwards, I visited the hospice and showed my medal to the nurses and patients I’d been looking after. I was particularly emotional and overwhelmed by the donations I received from family, friends, staff, patients and patients’ families – with messages including “thank you for your kindness and care towards my sister” and “thank you for being the best doctor I’ve met.”
Sana and I are proud to have raised over £2,600 for Pilgrims!
Did you have any preconceptions/assumptions about hospice care before coming to Pilgrims?
I thought hospice care was only for those at the end of life; I imagined sick people who were very close to dying. I now know that it often starts much earlier, when life-limiting diagnoses are made. Not everyone comes to the hospice to die; symptom control is a key reason for referral, to help enable patients to live well in the community. Pilgrims has a dedicated team for community visits, which expands care beyond the hospice walls.
Why is hospice care important?
I practice the Sikh faith, and am inspired by many Sikh values in how I live my life. Core aspects of the Sikh ethos include the Panjabi terms “sewa” (selfless service) and “daya” (compassion).
As hospices are almost completely charity funded, they are a prime example of sewa and daya, helping to better thousands of people’s lives and their experiences of end-of-life care, every single year.
Not only do hospices support patients with life-limiting conditions with their physical symptoms, they also support both patients and families with the psychological challenges faced at such an emotional time.
Why do we need to talk about death and dying, and how does Pilgrims help people to do this?
I’m inspired by Bhagat Puran Singh Ji (1904-1992), a prominent Sikh personality who was a humanitarian and environmentalist. He founded Pingalwara in Amritsar, a refuge for the sick, disabled, destitute, and abandoned, which developed into a charity that continues to flourish, expand and serve hundreds of thousands.
Bhagat Puran Singh Ji once stated: “Dignity in death is a birthright of each living thing.” His advocacy for death with dignity centered on ensuring that those who were terminally ill spent their final days in cleanliness, comfort, and love, without suffering – allowing them to die peacefully, cared for, and respected.
I believe these teachings and acts of service that I have looked up to are naturally been embedded within Pilgrims’ vision and care. Pilgrims encourage patient and family involvement from the first assessment and beyond – ensuring that patient wishes and dignity are upheld to the best of our abilities. As a multidisciplinary team, we all strive to work together in assessing needs, prioritising patient comfort, providing wider support to family and friends, and ensuring patient wishes are at the forefront of everything we do.
Pilgrims Hospices provides compassionate, specialist care free of charge to thousands of people in east Kent each year who are living with life-limiting conditions. Support is offered in patients’ homes, in the community, and at our three hospice sites in Canterbury, Thanet and Ashford. We also run a 24-hour advice line.
